who is I?

a few days ago i asked myself a question in a way i never did before. who am i? i surprised myself coming up with the question and i was not willing to let it go without a satisfying answer.
so there i sat.
soon something came up.
i am all i did and i am how i did these things.
i am all my thoughts and how they were formed.
i am all i ate and how i did that.
i am all i said and how i said it.
...

i could probably make a complete list of this, but what struck me was that i always came back with the answer to the questions what and how. very interesting. just like everybody on this planet i drink water sometimes. that's a part of my life, of who i am, but it doesn't differ from anybody else's life. but the way i drink water could be much more personal. maybe i could even have a unique way of drinking water.

i am the answer to 'what'
i am the answer to 'how'

the answer to 'what' is always something (physical or not, doesn't matter) that is or is not. straightforward. i relate this to the male principle (as is intended in for instance astrology or i tjing).
the answer to 'how' is always an explanation. and maybe it's never finished. very complex. i relate this to the female principle.

in astrology, every tiny bit of one's life can be placed in one of the 12 houses. uneven houses are male even houses are female. keeping this in mind, a person could be described in these 12 steps:

I am
1 my body (what)
2 the way i possess  (how)
3 what i interact with
4 how i grow
5 what i create
6 how i spend my time
7 whom i'm with
8 how i receive
9 what i learn
10 how i relate to society
11 what people and groups i connect to
12 how i let go

and still...
i am pj